Sunday, November 16, 2008

Housewife

Housewife...how i loathe that word yet i am one..by choice?..not really...had to quit my job coz following my hubby who got posted overseas..well, i could have stayed here and him being over there, but being old school i guess, family comes first. For me, a family needs to stay together..i do know few friends who live separately from their spouse and some didn't have any problems with that, but not me..i would be feeling guilty, having the kids apart from their dad. Anyway, being a housewife really bugs me, yep, even though it has been nearly ten years. My friends who are working do envy me having leisure time, not worrying about work and being yelled at by the boss. Well, there are two sides to a coin so there are some cons that come with being a housewife. Financial dependency on your hubby is one, which was a bit difficult for me, and still is, as I was financially dependent during my single days, having scholarship during my students days and have had worked for a few years. And for me, I feel by being a housewife, I am not really using my brain..the only writing I do is the groceries list..well, actually now that my kids have gone to school, I do a bit of writing in the communication book to their teachers but that's about it. That's why now I am starting my blog,at least I can get my brain going again and also get a few things off my chest.

Some people think that it's good that the mothers stay at home and take care of their kids coz then the children's upbringing is better than being left with the maid. But being cooped up at home and having to do all the housework and not being able to do things for yourself without feeling guilty, does take a toll on you and the anger and frustration would be let out on the kids by yelling at them for no good reason. So that's a catch 22 situation there, isn't it? Patience is really important and I am still working on it.

6 comments:

Cosmic_GurL said...

Yeah, being a housewife is not easy...but i know some friends who made it work..they start baking cupcakes and muffins and selling them off...even started a blog to sell off whtever they bake...

1309 said...

I know, cupcakes are the 'in' thing now, it's just that baking or cooking are not my forte, well, will try to get some part time job to keep me sane..really appreciate your comment, my first one..really happy (i need to get a life..haha)

Crash Test Mom said...

hello,
i just noticed that u follow my blog. starting this blog will help keep the boredom away i suppose.

yes, i'm one of the envious ppl out there who longs to be a stay-at-home-home (not housewife ya, hehe) and take care of my kids even if they drive me crazy. *sigh*

i look forward to your future entries.

Crash Test Mom said...

aiseyman, typo error la..'stay-at-home-mom' i meant.

1309 said...

Hi there, Crash test mom..thanks for the message..well, it is very interesting reading your blog..see that you are managing between being a working woman and a mom..not easy eh..well, as people say, the grass is always greener on the other side. i think i'd be a happier person if i work but then again, would I? and you're right, much prefer the term stay-at-home mom than housewife, remember that i loathe that word..anyway, thanks again..

SOHO Mama said...

Hi there 1309..thanks for dropping by and following my blog! I was a fulltime SAHM for about a year, when I was pregnant with my no. 2, Izzo. That was 7 years ago. Hv always worked before that. So when my husband reviewed our family budget which showed how much allowance I'll be getting from him, I cried (as in "ini jer? could I survive..?). I also felt very "housewifey" (as in tak-karier-lady) whenever his staff came around for makan2.
I didnt want to join the corporate world again after that so I had LOTS of sleepless nights thinking of what I wanted to do..
After 2 attempts of something-freelancing, I decided to try my hand at doing gift baskets..
So here I am now, alhamdulillah, nearly 5 years later :)
SO I'm pretty certain that one day, you too will find something that you love doing and good at it too :)